What Every Couple Ought to Know About Planning A Wedding During This Crisis – A guest blog post by Mae Owens from Milk Books.
The above image is from a wedding that took place in September 2020, right in the middle of the global pandemic.
No one expected the world to come to a standstill. A lot of people’s lives are on pause, commitments postponed, and scheduled events cancelled; most probably including your wedding!
It might be difficult to find a reason to celebrate during a pandemic, but it should not stop you and your partner from finally beginning a new chapter in your life.
These times are uncertain, and every decision we make can be easily changed tomorrow. Organising a wedding is already exhausting and quite expensive. It’s even more so if you have to do it on the premise of a Coronavirus-free setting. Treading these unprecedented waters might be intimidating, but that’s why we’re here to help. Here are some of the things you ought to know about when making important wedding decisions during this crisis.
Connecting With Your Vendors
More than ever, couples need to be consistently talking with the people involved in organising the wedding, most especially the vendors. Regular updates with your vendors are necessary to keep the flow of information going in these uncertain times.
Frequent (virtual) conversations with your vendors also entail that you have to sit down and discuss all your options and fallbacks if in any case, something goes wrong. Make it a point that every decision made has a backup plan for when things don’t go as expected. You have to check for the availability of the venue and personnel, scheduled dates, and whether they are still open for business in the future.
For instance, if you suddenly need to postpone your wedding, make sure the flowers of your choice are still in season for the postponed date. Also, check-in on your photographer or videographer’s availability on the newly set date. Most importantly, secure the availability of your wedding venue both for the ceremony and the reception.
Other than that, do not forget to also consult with your invited family and guests. They are involved in the planning process as much as you are since rescheduling a huge event like your wedding and bringing forth such uncertainty in their timeline will not guarantee their presence on your special day.
Keeping To Your Budget
Regardless of our financial capabilities, no one would want to spend a lot more than their original budget. Organising a wedding in itself is an extremely costly event with no return of investment. Especially now with COVID-19, some suppliers may charge extra fees to have some sort of security in venturing into this commitment with you while there is still a great unknown.
That is why it is necessary to sit down and discuss your terms and mutual obligations with all of your vendors once more. This part is central to making sure that you are aware of where your money goes during this wedding planning journey. There are cases of couples who have had to pay for wedding postponement or cancellation fees due to the pandemic which they were not previously informed about.
However, these fees are completely understandable since it is highly likely that your initial fees were already used up in preparation for your wedding, but that is with the assumption that there isn’t going to be a pandemic which is just not the case at present. So do make sure that you see eye-to-eye with your contracts, clarify the complicated and grey areas, and clear off any misunderstandings and false assumptions.
To Postpone Or Not?
The huge difference between planning a wedding before versus planning amidst a pandemic now is that nothing is definite at present. Having to conduct such a costly event can cause you to lose money and your months (or even years!) of hard work.
At the same time, postponing your wedding can be impractical and wasteful. There is an acceptable time of prolonging such an event, but you have to put your feet down eventually and decide whether to just cancel the event, to keep on postponing it, or to finally go ahead and hold the ceremony.
If you decide to do the latter, there are various ways of organising a Coronavirus-free wedding. The first factor you need to be reconsidering is your guest list. In some places, any type of gathering is not even allowed while some others are a little bit laxer. That is why it’s important to be updated with your area’s quarantine or lockdown guidelines, too.
With that in mind, couples have been getting more and more creative and resourceful just to finally be able to celebrate their special day. This could also be an opportunity for you to follow the unconventional path and go with the flow of the times. Some couples decided to simply host their wedding ceremony in their backyard, while some opted to broadcast their ceremony via video conferencing so that their family and guests wouldn’t miss out.
You could also take some of the tasks off of your vendors by using this downtime wisely and slowly working your way through the grunt of the work of your wedding planning. You can test out your creativity by crafting your wedding invitations and have your partner contribute as well. If you have an eye for photography, maybe have your take of what you want your wedding photos to look like, but of course, consulting with a professional photographer is still highly recommended. If you want to view a recent full day wedding during Covid 19, click here. I think you’ll be surprised how remarkably similar it looks to a non-Covid wedding.
For starters, you can try a quarantine-themed wedding photoshoot to make sure that it’s safe and at the same time, you get to be creative and resourceful. Afterward, you can try having it printed with a beautifully crafted photo book as your memory keepsake.
By the end of the day, whatever you decide, the fact that you are getting married amidst this crisis makes your wedding so much more memorable than others because, despite the circumstances, you powered through the pandemic, said your vows, and began this journey together.